I have a friend who is a Christian (I am not bashing any religion just stating this for facts) who is absolutely miserable in her marriage. She is controlled by her husband, she is constantly forced to choose between him and her three children from a previous marriage. For two years the kids have been pushed aside and begged for more from their mother. She went to her pastor for help and he told her to put her DH first. She doesn't feel that is right and wants to put her children first because she feels that is what's best for them (FYI she is pregnant with his child). She told him a few days ago the marraige is over and now the pastor has come back and is making her feel that she has no "biblical reason" to leave her husband. What would you do? He's forced her to choose between him and her children many many times and she feels they need to come first.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:12 AM on May. 7, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs
I would leave but, I would never be with someone who was trying to get between me & my child in the first place, NO ONE, especially not some man could have that kind of effect on my relationship with my child. It sounds to me like your friend needs some help ASAP to boost her self esteem because her children & her relationship with them is suffering. The best thing she can do is leave, her kids need her, if her husband doesn't respect that & doesn't support that, then she does not need him. Any Pastor who would ignore the needs of children and say to put a grown man first would no longer be my spiritual guide. It doesn't sound like the Pastor put any responsibility on the husband and that is ridiculous. Maybe she can lean on some of her Christain sisters during this time. I would not listen to this Pastor though.
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