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i need advice asap!!!

i am extremely depressed....i have been thinking about my husbands past all day and i cant stop...i am at a loss of what i should do and how i can make myself feel better

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:32 PM on May. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Seek counseling and ask for an anti-depressant.


    Answer by Anonymous at 7:36 PM on May. 7, 2009

  • Drink beer. :)
    You can't change the past...don't dwell. Yeah, it's hard NOT to dwell on it, but you can only make the most out of what you have before you. Learn from the past, but don't let it dictate your life.

    Answer by michelle121003 at 7:36 PM on May. 7, 2009

  • you are depressed over someone else's past? Now that 's a new one. if you want to cheat yourself out of the joy of the present then keep it up but it seems ridiculous to me to do that. Enjoy the now. The past is over. If you keep it up you might lose him. Is that what you want? you cant' change the past. Look forward and keep headed in that direction.

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:44 PM on May. 7, 2009

  • Was this past before or after you married him?
    Worry doesn't take about the sorrows of tomorrow, it robs today of it's strengths (read that quote somewhere and it seems to fit this situation).
    If you can't deal with it, either get in some councelling or get out of the relationship if it's something you can't get past. No one can change what they did a second ago but they can change what they do in the future.
    I think the term depression is used too loosely. If you're depressed about that instead of just upset, then you have problems and should seek some help. There's some things that are hard to get past, but that's what you do in a marriage or relationship (be it friends or familily) or you remove yourself from the problem.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 9:13 PM on May. 7, 2009

  • Have a hard day... but just dont waste your time on something you cant change, obviously he did something to upset you but YOU made a decision to move on from there.... and you should honor that.... You chose to stay with him.... yes there will be bad days... BUT..... you cant prison him, if he was worth the fight in the past (or when you found out) .. you could be the one ruining everything for the future. Make up your mind, forgive....... move on, but if it happens again.... dont forget STRIKE 2!!!!! Depression is a fight that people ruin themselves for... they eat too much.. dont eat... continplate suicide...heavy issues, and thinking about suicide when you are on MOM.Com, means you would leave a child behind........ this is worth counseling if you cant move past it, YOU and your CHILD are#1, no one will look out for you but YOU!!!! Make a choice and stick with it!!!

    Answer by jennieo622 at 11:06 PM on May. 7, 2009

  • I like the "drink beer" comment.. Which reminds me I have a bottle of Jager out in the cooler. Seriously though "the past is dead and gone".. it's the future that you can change. You definitely need counseling if you are hung up on someone's past!

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:00 AM on May. 8, 2009

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