So to make a long story short, our 12 year old got into trouble this week for not going to school in the morning and skipping classes., she was not going inside when she was dropped off by the school bus. This morning her dad told her he would be driving her there on his way to work, and he would be walking her inside and to her first class, and also would be picking her up the same way.
I am pretty sure the gates of hell opened up when she heard this, because I have never seen her so angry and upset, she started crying and screaming, threw all her books against the wall and slapped Dh right across his face. We were in shock to put it simply. He was too upset to deal with her, so I drove her to school myself and he told her we would deal with this when she got home.
I am at a loss on what to do or say at this point, and dh is so angry he can't see straight. How do you think would be best to deal with this problem?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:34 AM on May. 8, 2009 in General Parenting
I would stick to your guns. No need for yelling, hopefully dad can calm down (it would take me a while though) if anything, i would encourage your husband to express how much she hurt his feelings. Not only is he mad, but I'm sure his heart broke when his sweet lil daughter slapped him. Let her know how much she broke his heart. Still stick to your guns though. Just tell her you'll continue doing this until she can learn to behave. Your actions speak louder than words, you don't really have to say much. I would take away even more freedom. I would take away her ipod, or cell phone, or whatever it is that she loves SO much. Tell her you love her, & that if this is the only way you can get her to behave, then you will keep taking rights away until she can learn to act more mature. If she wants to act like a young child, then she can be treated like one & have her favorite things taken away.
Answer by samurai_chica at 11:42 AM on May. 8, 2009
Oh that girl would have NO privileges! NONE for who the hell knows how long. All she would be doing is breathing, going to and from school, eating, peeing and pooping!
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