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im not good with this type of thing..

i'll be staying at my best friends house this weekend (saturday) and since mother's day is sunday i have a feeling she's just going to break down because she lost her mom recently and this will be the first mothers day without her. i hate dealing with this kind of thing because i never know what to say, or i say the wrong things. what should i do if this happens?

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exxOHjackie

Asked by exxOHjackie at 12:54 PM on May. 8, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • Don't say anything. Just give her a hug and be there for her. Let her know that if she wants to talk you will listen. And if she wants space, you can go to another room. Try not to say "I understand" or "I know how you feel" because even if you have been through it, it's still different and that can really piss people off! :)

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:56 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • Just hug her, hold her whatever and don't say anything. let her cry. Sometimes silence is the best thing you can do. She's lucky to have a friend like you! Poor girl =\ thats sad.
    amy31308

    Answer by amy31308 at 12:56 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • Anonymous 12:56 is right the best thing for you to do is let you know you are there for her
    angel_megan

    Answer by angel_megan at 12:57 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • You don't have to say anything. Maybe "I'm sorry." If she expresses distress that she has broken down, assure her that it is perfectly OK. She may prefer to recover privately. So you can suggest that you go read or someplace where she has privacy. Or you can have a backup plan, some place that you think she would be excited about going and suggest that, it might help her snap out of it for a while. Or even suggest that the two of you take a walk, some fresh air.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 1:28 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • sounds like she just needs someone else there. It helps when you just have someone to listen, or hold you. There really isn't much you can say, sorry doesn't help. So just be there listen to what she might say and just try to be supportive.
    Iluvmygirlies42

    Answer by Iluvmygirlies42 at 1:30 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • i'm sure you might want to say something, but if this does happen, just let HER do the talking. let her vent, let her cry, and offer open arms. give her a hug!
    Owl_Feather

    Answer by Owl_Feather at 1:55 PM on May. 8, 2009

  • Let her cry and then spend the rest of the day with distractions.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on May. 8, 2009

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