My best friend has been with this guy for about 2 years. I heard about a month ago from another friend (who heard it from another friend who heard it from the guy's best friend) that this guy was going to break up with my best friend. I told her that people were talking about her and said something that her guy's friend said, but I wouldn't say what it was. Two weeks ago the guy did break up with my friend. Now I feel extremely guilty because she's very upset about it. I'm not sure if I should have told her. I didn't tell her at the time because a)it's a rumor and b)I didn't want her to think I was trying to start something between them. But now I think it would have made things quicker and maybe less painful in the end...? What would you have done in my situation? Would you tell your friend now (after the fact) that you knew it was possibly coming?
Well, it has been my experience that when you reveal that you know after the fact it makes you look bad. The "why didn't you tell me" kind of thing. My BFF was married to my step-brother-in-law. I found out after they divorced that he cheated on her. I never told her, there was so much bad stuff that I just didn't want to add to her pain. So, it comes up later I confess and things were never the same. My advice: Just forget what you heard and don't tell her you knew. I know this sounds wrong, but it's not going to do her any good to know that you knew it was coming. I imagine she'd even feel a little humiliated. Just be there for her and try to get her to steer clear of this guy!
Answer by Austinsmom35 at 11:08 PM on May. 8, 2009
I almost had my marriage ruined over something like this. Stay out of it. Rumors are vicious things and need to be squashed!
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