I hope this post doesn't start a bunch of drama - PLEASE!! Adoptee moms often are the minority in posting their views/perspectives in this Q&A section and in adoption-related groups.
I'd just like to say for MYSELF that Mother's Day brings mixed emotions for me as an adoptee. I think longingly and lovingly about the two moms that have made me who I am today. For me there is no ranking in my love for these women - there is enough room in my heart for both to be on equal footing. There is no "first" or "birth" or "natural" applied in my heart to the woman who was unable to parent me. There is no "adoptive" applied in my heart to the woman who raised me, who has never said a negative thing about my other mom, who has been there and continues to be there for me every step of the way.
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 12:34 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by Busimommi at 12:34 PM on May. 9, 2009
Happy Mother's Day, PortAngeles1969! May you find peace in your journey. You have been a blessing to me and I pray that one day you are in reunion with your birth mom. You have alot in common already. I pray that your Mom realizes that this is something that you have to do for yourself, and no reflection on her raising you. You are just needing that last piece of the puzzle that only your other mom holds. (Forgive me, I am trying to use the same words for your moms as you did, I hope I am not making of mess of this...) You have shed a lot of light in this section of CM and I am glad to learn from your POV's (Cause you have a lot of them, LOL!)
Again, Happy Mother's Day!
Answer by doodlebopfan at 12:49 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by Dannee at 12:51 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by JESSEMOM at 12:52 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 1:43 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 1:53 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 4:12 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by Katie911 at 4:34 PM on May. 9, 2009
Answer by rainfalls at 5:18 PM on May. 9, 2009
Next question overall
how old was your child before you stopped useing a baby monitor?