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Is it................................

possible to love someone but NOT be IN love with them?

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Asked by NCIS05 at 2:08 PM on May. 9, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Yes all the time most divorces come from this very feeling. I think it's sad when girls go on and on about how much they love a guy when it sounds like all he does is make life harder on them you can love the scum of the earth and not be in love with them.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:11 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • absolutely there are many different ways to love a person but only one way to be in love with them

    Answer by hautemama83 at 2:11 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • yes it is sometimes i feel like im not in love with my DH any more but i konw i love him and always will

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:12 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • yes absolutely...i love my husband but i'm not in love with him:(

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:15 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • yup

    Answer by admckenzie at 2:27 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • YES. You love your mom, right?!!!!!!!! :o)

    Answer by Bethe333 at 2:45 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • Of course. But that "in love" feeling sometimes comes and goes. I think that's why so many people give up on their marriages so quickly and why the divorce rate is to darn high. You have to ride out the difficult/boring times and you'll get to the easy/fun times again. Marriage goes in waves.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:01 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • Most marriages have ups and downs where the couple falls in love over and over again.
    Just like sometimes you can love someone but not like their choices or love them but not like them.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 3:17 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • Yes! It's not only possible, but it's how most of married life is lived. The "in love" feelings come and go with whatever circumstances we find ourselves. Loving someone is being commited to their best interests, wanting what is best for them, being willing to help them attain their highest potential, knowing there will be days when you just don't feel very loving. Then something wonderful happens from time to time! Those loving feelings come back just as powerful as they were in the beginning of the commitment, but we know it's only temporary.

    Answer by NannyB. at 3:39 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • The other posters are right. That "in love" feeling is often confused for "infatuated."

    Those infatuated feelings early in a relationship naturally quiet down, but you if let it, it is replaced by something much more profound and lasting.

    Answer by mogencreative at 5:44 PM on May. 9, 2009

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