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help with my sept child

ok i have a step child who is five ..... and we live in the country with 6 houses around us ... well today i told him he can go play outside and he could ask the next door kids to play with him ..... i told him to go knock and i walked inside ..... well a few mins pased and i check on him all the time , i went outside too see where he was and what he was doing ...... and HE IS NOWHERE TO BE FOUND , i walk over to the house next door and knock and he is inside .... i asked him why he didnt tell me he was going inside and he said he just walked in i asked the kids fater and he said he did just walk in......

so my question is what should i do? how should i handle this ?

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Asked by mom_since08 at 2:28 PM on May. 9, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • You don't leave it up to a 5 year old to go knock on the neighbor's door and see if they can play. You go with him next time and every time after that, and it won't be a problem anymore. Or, teach him how to knock on the neighbor's door instead of just going in.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:30 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • i also have a one year old that was inside and i cant just leave him in there while i go knock on a door he has been told not to walk into anyones house by his mother cause he did it at her house too

    Answer by mom_since08 at 2:33 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • Take the 1 year old with you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:34 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • It takes only 20 seconds for someone to snatch your child. Why would you ever leave a child outside, unsupervised?

    Answer by rkoloms at 3:02 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • i live in the middle of nowhere we are 30 miles form any thing and i live on a drit road like i said before with only 6 house around us one house has kids and the rest of them are old couples who we know and are familly friends hes out side yes but checked on all the time and he says where i can see him i dont see a problem with him being outside with out and adult as long as i can look out the window and see him

    Answer by mom_since08 at 3:15 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • I'm sorry, a child outside alone even for seconds can be very unsafe. Maybe next time you could call & ask the neighbor if the children can play together and at which house. If it's at the neighbors, you could watch him walk over to make sure he's safe.

    Answer by eeyoreplus4 at 4:40 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • My son will be 8 next month and I don't allow him to have any outside responsibilities other than helping to bring in groceries or bring in mail. If he is outside at least 2 adults are with him. Don't let your 5 yr old do that again. That would have scared me to death.

    Answer by lilbit022009 at 8:25 PM on May. 9, 2009

  • okay, i understand living in the country so i am not going to jump all over you. however, i would have at least stood outside and watched him knock on the neighbors door. that way if he went in, you could have taken your 1 year old with you and gone and gotten him. my LO is 10 months old and loves being outside so when its nice she is outside most of the day with everyone else. also you could explain to the neighbor that next time if he just walks in that you would prefer that he send him back outside unless the father has spoken to you and you know he is going to be playing inside there.

    Answer by aly38914290 at 11:03 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Get up off your tush and watch this kid! Just b/c he is your stepchild, doesn't mean you aren't responsible for his safety. He is too young to be left unattended-country living or not.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:20 AM on May. 11, 2009

  • How about getting a phone number and calling ahead and asking for a play date rather than trusting a 5 yr old on his own?

    Answer by salexander at 11:50 AM on May. 11, 2009

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