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Your baby daddy goes to the army 4 a while, and a man comes along but your growing old of your babies daddy but you want your baby to be able to see her dad whenever without driving ,where she coild just get up in the morning and see him but im falling 4 another guy?What do i do?

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cupcake1245

Asked by cupcake1245 at 2:18 AM on May. 10, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • baby daddy... that term is disgusting....

    why would you "fall" for another person...
    poor guy, i hope he finds out.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:19 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • honor your daughter's life and get counseling to understand why you feel as you do and how going behind baby's daddy back while he's military or otherwise, will hurt your baby and you for a long time.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • It's about respect for your family, give yourself time to be lonely and chance to get over it. You don't need another man around. Take this time to find out what you want in life. Be true to yourself. Be good to yourself. Good luck to you.
    tjburcham

    Answer by tjburcham at 2:35 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • why do people continue to say baby daddy or babby mama, it's the child's father or dad not baby daddy!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:39 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • You are practicing an "out of sight, out of mind" theory. Your man is gone so your looking for another. Do you ever stop and think about what it's like for your man to be deployed?? The fact that you and his child are what keeps him waking up every morning? He isn't playing around with other women, he is fighting for this country's (yours, mine, and everyone else's) freedom and safety. Do you think he was deployed on his choice? Stay with your man and forget about the other one. If you leave, it will be your child that suffers, and he/she will make you suffer later in life.
    kustomkrochet

    Answer by kustomkrochet at 8:45 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • My husband is in the army so i understand what your talking about with him being gone. What happend is just that since you are alone and he is not there with you you went looking for the comfort you get from him elsewhere. Wait till he gets back and see how you feel. It will be verry hard on your baby now and later on in life if you just up and leave when he is gone. I even understand that im going to have trouble with this when my husband gets deployed. If you are having that hard of a time with it then try counceling. That might help with the way you are feeling.
    Shelii

    Answer by Shelii at 10:45 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • i agree with kustomkrochet 100%
    lienna

    Answer by lienna at 11:33 AM on May. 10, 2009

  • I understand what you are feeling cuz I've been there, but guess what? What you feel for the other person is just you missing your other half. So my advice to you is sever everything with the other person, get a hobby, make some friends (female), and catch up on movies. Especially movies that you know good and darn well your S/O wouldn't wanna watch. You can even watch movies you know he'd love to see so you have something to write him about. Oh, and writing....write him everyday and mail them! It'll do you both some good. It'll remind you to think of him 1st and how you feel and it'll boost his spirit to know you thought of him. One more thing, there are support groups and a USO that you can participate in to stay busy and focused on your man. It ain't easy, but hang in there. BTW, go to the army website and setup an account for family of deployed men. He can set one up too and you guys can chat. It's like myspace 4 the army.
    Lakota505

    Answer by Lakota505 at 9:31 AM on May. 11, 2009

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