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Spin off Q from "Man wants the baby woman doesn't"

How is it fair that if the woman doesn't want the pregnancy she can abort no questions asked but if a man doesn't want the pregnancy he still has to pay child support. So woman doesn't want a baby she is off the hook, she can walk away. Man doesn't want a baby too bad he's stuck. Shouldn't both people involved have the bail out option?


Asked by Anonymous at 8:47 PM on May. 10, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

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Answers (44)
  • Women who abort are worse than the dead beat dads moms complain about on here. Men walk away but are not murderers. The child has a chance at life if dad is selfish and leaves it dies if mom decides to be selfish.

    I think if it is a woman's body and choice a man should be able to decide during pregnancy if he wants to be involved or not. After birth he should not have that option. He should not have to pay support if he opts out during pregnancy and his rights should be revoked for life.

    Thousands of kids are abandoned by fathers each year. 1.3 million are murdered in the womb by mothers yet we worry about strangers harming children. Moms and dads are the ones most likely to hurt a kid or kill a kid. It is because our country has a culture of not valuing life.

    My mother almost aborted me at 8 weeks. I am lucky she came to her senses and allowed me to live. Abortion does stop a beating heart.


    Answer by Anonymous at 11:00 AM on May. 11, 2009

  • Life isn't fair, anyone who says otherwise is selling you something.

    No it's not fair but the fact is the woman is the one who carries and births the child, it's her body and life that will be more seriously affected so the choice falls on her.


    Answer by Friday at 8:50 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Again, this is a question that two people should discuss before they have sex! If he does not want her to have an abortion if she has an unplanned pregnancy, then he should not be having sex with her. This is his issue, not hers.

    Answer by rkoloms at 8:51 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Men walk away from babies all the time and don't pay child support. And that's not fair either.
    Also, if she doesn't want the baby, she can have him and give him to the baby's father and SHE can pay child support. It happens, my brother in law is a product of that kind of situation.

    Answer by LadyChamp at 8:52 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Okay the first two people need to re read the Q. this has nothing to do with who wants it but who doesn't. the Question is why can a woman walk away from an unwanted pregnancy while on the flip side a man is stuck paying child support for a child he never wanted.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:55 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • im not for abortions but if you want to talk about fairness.. when we get pregnant its our body that goes through all the emotions and the labor the ripping and stiches. women get cut open and stappled up and some even die giving birth while daddy holds the hand and tells you to push?!
    when 2 people lay down and make a baby both should take responsibility (sp) and do the right thing about it but at the end a man can not make any decisions for what you want or dont want to do with YOUR body

    Answer by glossyblack at 8:57 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Men do have the chance to bail out, and men even sometimes have the decision on aborting the baby. There have been several women who only did it because the man wanted to, then the women ended up regretting it later on. These are two different things here. You can't compare them. If a woman has a baby and decides she doesn't want to raise it, then the man could draw child support from her. Same thing if the man wanted to leave. A woman can choose to have an abortion because she is the one carrying the baby. It's her body that they will be going in to to remove the baby, and it would be a violation if someone else made her get one without her consent. It goes against a law, that's why. There are several, and I mean several men out there that don't pay a dime in child support and get away with it.


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:03 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Which is why it is a little unfair to say he has to pay for what you to decide what to do with your body. You cannot compel a man to pay for your breast implants or your face lift, but this "voluntary" medical decision is also his financial responsibility, too.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:04 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Nothing to do with her decision one way or another! It's about why can a woman decide she doesn't want the baby and abort it BUT if she decides to keep it the man doesn't have the same option to 'abort' from the baby. Not make her get an abortion just walk away and let her have the baby she wants and not be involved. He still has to pay whether he wants to or not because of her choice.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:05 PM on May. 10, 2009

  • Most women who have abortions aren't even with a guy who >>>wants<<< to keep the baby anyway. So, really, it's not a major issue of concern here because It's probably a very rare occurrence.


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:06 PM on May. 10, 2009