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Deployment Question!

This question is for all the millitary wives! When your husband returned back from a deployment did he act differant! Did he like to keep to him self and really not like to talk, like sit in his office by hiself and watch tv?


Asked by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on May. 11, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (6)
  • Things are kinda weird at first yeah but it gets better. Just dont push being around him all the time when he is home. Depending on what his job was over there alot of times they just dont want to talk about it and when they have been gone that long sometimes thats all us wives can think about talking to them about. Give him time to adjust back and just make sure that he sits with the family for dinner every night and have a night that you watch movies togeather and have a night for just the two of you to spend time togeather send the kids away and enjoy yourself. But dont worry things will get better.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:10 AM on May. 11, 2009

  • They are supposed to get used to you again, not be all over you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on May. 11, 2009

  • If he was deployed for a while, then yes, he needs time to readjust to living "normally" again. Noone can imagine the things he has seen and heard, and I'm sure it will take him awhile to sort out his feelings. Give him some space and don't push him too far too fast. Maybe he needs therapy for awhile. He could be experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. IF this is the case, he'll definately need all the love and support he can get to work through this. Be patient with him.. He served our country in the bravest of ways. Now, you be brave for him for a while. God Bless.

    Answer by lighthousemom3 at 11:57 AM on May. 11, 2009

  • they will be different....they have toa djust, it takes time....espect him to be distant, expect him to be unsure how he is supposed to fit back into this life, expect emotional issues, expect arguments.
    so many wives expect them to come back and just snap back into famly does not work that way....and if you push for that, you will only make it worse

    Answer by moki1984 at 12:37 PM on May. 11, 2009

  • My Husband is Special Forces so he is ALWAYS deploying. He always acts a little different right before he leaves and a little different after he returns. He see's and does things that NO ONE could imagine. He does things that ( by law) he is not allowed to discuss to me or anyone. So I am sure he has things going on in his head that he has to "work out"..

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:07 PM on May. 11, 2009

  • He could be distancing himself because of things that he went through. How did your relationship fare while he was gone? Did you argue much? It could be, if that were the case, that he doesn't know how to repair the things that seemingly broke while he was away. Another thing is that he's been in the desert with nothing to do but work or sit in his room... the down time can be pretty boring and he may just not be used to having someone around as much as he did before the deployment.

    Give him some time, some space, and if in a couple of weeks he doesn't start to come around more then approach him about it in as delicate a way as possible.

    I know that they aren't the only ones fighting this war, it takes a lot from us too... it's just our time to be strong doesn't end the minute they step off that plane.

    Answer by prettylilrae at 11:52 PM on May. 11, 2009