My husband has recently told me that I make him feel obligated to show me affection. Such as kissing, saying "I Love You", and even having sex, because he says I always want or do those things....so he simply now feels obligated to do them, and is more or less pulling away from me. I'm just not sure how to approach the situation now. I love him with all my heart, and being as how I'm a woman, and a very hopeless romantic one at that I just always feel the need to hug, kiss, and well love to show it in the bedroom too. So do I just T-totally pull back from everything I'm doing, and let him come to me when he feels like it? I mean I have emotional needs as well.... I just don't know how to go about it all now....I want to reach some sort of unspoken agreement, without compromising my own needs of our relationship.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:36 PM on May. 11, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 7:42 PM on May. 11, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:55 PM on May. 11, 2009
IDK what change between you 2 that it would lead him to push you away but when that happened to me it was because there was someone else in the picture. When I met my current SO he was in a relationship of 5yrs. He told me that the problem between them was she always wanted to hold him and kiss him and be around him..he called it needy. He said it just wasn't the way he was...after they separated and we started dating I found out that he is more "needy" than I am. It was just the fact that he didn't love her anymore that made him think that way. You should try to give him space maybe he's going trough crap at work or emotionally and he doesn't know how to tell you.
Answer by mother.of2 at 12:06 AM on May. 12, 2009