I would say for about every ten orgasms he has I have one or two. So in an average month he gets 10-15 and I get 1-3. He rarely puts time into turning me on before sex (foreplay), and sex is usually pretty short. And when we do have foreplay it lasts maybe 3 minutes and he does what he wants, not what I like. I have explicitly told and shown him several times what I like, what turns me on, and how to get me off. This doesn't seem to matter to him. He is too focused on getting himself off. When I have asked him why he isn't interested in satisfying me. He just said that is something I am responsible for not him, that I should just masterbate if I wanna get off. This to me seemed incredibly selfish and is just saying he doesn't care about my satisfaction. I DON'T want to do the hold off sex thing. That has only lead to frustration and more problems. This has been going on for years and I am lost. I want to enjoy our sex life tooAnswer Question
Cut him off.....If he's not willing to please you, then why please him?
Answer by legalmommy101 at 10:17 PM on May. 11, 2009
Thanks for the advice, but I have already done that one. It just made everything WAY WAY worse. I wasn't even getting to 1-3 a months. It caused more problems in other areas of our marriage too. It was basically a stressful and bad time for all of us.
Plus I enjoy going down on him and giving him pleasure. I like making him happy. I don't do it just so I will get it in return. I genuinely do it for him, not for me.
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