Her son is 3 and mine is four. Today he kept calling my son ugly. SHE is the one that taught him this and laughed everytime he did it. I told her what he is saying is very mean and hurtful. She just blew me off and said that it is funny and not a big deal. My son is old enough to understand what he is saying and it did bother him. He later asked me if he was ugly. I told him no and reassured him a million times over that he is beautiful, cute, handsome, ect. He said that he doesn't like Mikey, his cousin. I understand that he is hurt, I don't know what step to take next. I wouldn't mind one bit if we never went to see my in laws again.... but I know that my husband would care. What do I do now??
Asked by Anonymous at 11:04 PM on May. 11, 2009 in General Parenting
I agree with anon :10. There is not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. She is choosing how to raise her children. You telling her that she is wrong will cause way more problems. Also telling the boy that he is being mean won't do any good. She will most likely get mad at you for undermining her parenting and it won't make the slightest difference to the boy. What he is doing is acceptable and funny in his family. Having his aunt scold him about it will only make him not like you. He has no understanding that what he is doing is wrong. I do also agree that you need to stand up for your son. Make a bigger deal of it to her. Tell her how it hurt your sons feelings not just yours. She probably thinks he doesn't understand what is being said. Cutting off ties is a bad idea too. It will cause bad blood and make your husband feel that he has to choose you over his family.
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