I want to leave my husband of 11 years. I haven't been happy for at least 8 of those years and there were about 4 years when the boys were younger that I actually hated him. There has been improvement over the past couple years and I know that I could stay for the sake of the boys, but there's been so much hurt and resentment in the past that I'm not sure if I can ever love him again.
Don't get me wrong, he's a good man who I believe loves me in his own way, but I don't know that I can keep doing this. I want out. But I hate hurting my kids like this. I'm really at a loss and don't know what to do.
So ladies, my question is this: If you were the one that pursued the divorce because you weren't happy, do you look back and wish that you had stayed and worked at it more? Please - any comments (except bashing) will be greatly appreciated.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:14 PM on May. 12, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 6:18 PM on May. 12, 2009
No, I don't regret getting a divorce. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and my future. Divorce can be hard on kids but not any harder than living with two unhappy parents. Once you've exhausted every outlet to save the marriage, there's only one thing left. For some married couples they don't even need to go through every outlet (cases of abuse). There are many couples that seek mediation instead of going through a lawyer. Mediation is much cheaper and can accomplish much more than two busy lawyers charging $300 per piece of paper work and other $$ going towards any phone calls they make to the other lawyer. There are couples that actually decide to work on things after going through mediation.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 6:21 PM on May. 12, 2009
Answer by haston at 9:47 PM on May. 12, 2009
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