So this is for my wife. I am on her account hoping to get her some help. My son loves her very much, like his own mother. They have a much stronger relationship than he and his own mother have. She is so scared of stepping on my exes toes though. She wants him to know that she loves him too, but that she wants to be close to his mom too. She honestly wants nothing more than for him to feel as close to his mom as he does to her. His mom is kind of...flaky. She is around sometimes, then not. She doesn't do more than the bare minimum. She never calls or anything when he isn't there even though I have extended the offer a million times. She doesn't do the sports or the school events or the doctors visits. That's all my wife. My ex and I divorced when my son was an infant, and my wife was in his life when he was about a year old. My son has told me he doesn't think his mom loves him as much as she does. So what does she do?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:15 PM on May. 12, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by 3_is_enough at 6:45 PM on May. 12, 2009
You need to let your current wife keep the lines of communication open. Your child will realize how is mom is on his own. He will thrive with your wife as a mom/step-parent. There is nothing you need to do. I would recommend that you--keep positive and not talk about his mom in anyway other than positive when he is around. Let your wife love your son. There is nothing wrong with sharing him, and if his bio-mom is less than perfect or around he'll know, but that does not mean he won't love her. He'll love his step mom for her selflessness.
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