I have a 16 year old (3 wks shy) and have tried taking away the cell phone, limiting going anywhere, no television, I even planed a huge trip for the 16th birthday party as a goal to work towards and nothing seems to help. Any ideas???Answer Question
Answer by Bugsmommy1908 at 6:25 PM on May. 12, 2009
If it's school you're talking about, tell them that is their job. Their marks in school are your guideline to any "raises" they will get, and so if they don't do well, they don't get more "pay".
Unless it's necessary food, clothing and housing...don't give them any "extras".
This is how the real world works. If you don't do well at work, they don't pay you well and you can't buy the cool stuff.
If it's something YOU want them to apply them self to (such as yardwork, housework, etc.), You can also give them marks just like school does. That way they can actually see their improvement on a chart. Maybe make each higher mark worth so much cash. Like going from a C to a B is worth a $50.00 bonus. When they don't do well, they don't get the bonus.
You get the idea?
Answer by timelessglass at 6:33 PM on May. 12, 2009
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