I recently found out that I was pregnant and me and my husband are thrilled. We've been trying since our wedding day almost 4 years ago. Although I am only 6 weeks pregnant, I proceeded to tell everyone I knew! A friend of mine who has no children of her own asked when I was quitting my job. I told her after my maternity leave of 4 months, I would return back to work. I wasn't going to be a stay at home mom, and she just couldn't believe it! Her belief is you don't have children until you can stay at home with them at least until your youngest is in school. Although I love my child to death already and I'm happy about being a mom, I don't want to be a stay at home mom. I have a job that I love and that pays very well and I dont' feel like I should give that up. Does this make me a bad mom? (I also only work 8 hrs a day and hubby works 8, and we both work morning shifts)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:59 PM on May. 13, 2009 in Relationships
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While there is nothing wrong with being a working mom, if your friend knew that you were trying for 4 yrs, I'm not surprised that she assumed that you would stay home. Did she say she thought you were a bad mom or only that she wouldn't do it that way? Often times we make decisions for ourselves and just assume that everybody else agrees with us. She is probably scrimping and saving so she can afford to stay home and finally start her family and she might just be disappointed to learn that you 1) weren't waiting like she thought you were and 2) aren't doing it her way. She might even be worried that she might not get pregnant the minute she wants to after having delayed her gratification. I don't know your friend, so I'm guessing. but I can tell you that I never intended to be a working mom, but it happened twice. It is not something I choose.
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