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why am i having so much trouble potty training my two year old?? please help

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:24 PM on May. 13, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • They might just not be ready yet. Take a few weeks off, then restart. Make sure to have lots of rewards for good jobs, and expect accidents. Some kids just take longer....;)

    Answer by mom2twobabes at 4:27 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • More info please.
    How old is the child - there's a large difference in what you can expect a 24 month old or a 35 month old to do.
    What sex? In general, boys start later and take longer.
    What have you tried and how has the child responded?
    Are you expecting the child to master everything in one step - recognize the feeling, put down the toys and stop playing all on his own, get to the bathroom, work the clothes, use the potty, wipe, redo clothes, wash the hands, go back to playing? A lot of those steps require a lot of maturity - especially the "putting down the toys with no prompting from mom" part. Most kids will keep right on playing, hoping the feeling goes away. WE ADULTS know it won't. But that doesn't stop a toddler from wishing it with all his might while dancing from foot to foot and trying to enjoy playing with his cars.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 4:29 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • Honey, potty training is a trial unto itself. We all go through it. What makes it difficult is when the father doesn't agree with how mother is doing it. (I should know.) Be thankful that you aren't potty training a puppy, too. I am potty training both a two-year-old and a 2 month old puppy. There are days when I put dinner on the table. We all eat and then I have to ask dear ol' hubby to watch the children while I take the car and go somewhere. I am mentally and physically exhausted. The potty training does get better. There are basically 4 phases. (1) Getting the LO to sit on the potty. (2) Letting them run around the house w/o anything below the waist, and they finally figure out that they need to go and must do it on the chair. (3) Next, put underwear on them. When they finally stop wetting them & use the chair, you move onto the next phase. (4)Trying to prevent them from hiding when they need to go #2.

    Answer by dustbunny at 4:37 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • does he have the signs of being ready? ie. dry when wakes up, dry after meals/snacks, tells you when he's wet/poopy, takes off his pullup/diaper when he's wet/poopy (does not have to be all of these together though) if not, then he's not ready. if so, then maybe it will work by just putting on underwear and let him know how it feels to be wet. or you can have him run around naked, just be ready for some serious cleaning :) i know it's hard mom but if he fights you or doesn't seem interested then you might just have to stop for a couple weeks and then try again. GL

    Answer by armywife43 at 4:37 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • Probably too young. Pushing it only sets you all back. I'd wait a little longer, I know it's frustrating.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 4:41 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • shes our baby girl. she loves going potty on the potty, but then all of a sudden all she does is go in the pull up and then tells us after words. she did it so well on her own and all of a sudden she just stoped. i dont want to stress over it. we did let her run arould naked and she peed on the floor more than once so we stoped that. and we also tried just panties and just peed in them to. i dunno if she has in intrest in it anymore or not. im not sure what to do.

    Answer by misskitty6900 at 4:43 PM on May. 13, 2009

  • Ahhh...
    At a guess, I'd say that in the past, she happily ran up to you and said "Mommy, potty!" and you took her to the potty. And now, she doesn't say a thing, just sits there and pees.
    If so, this is common and expected. The newness and excitment has worn off. Given the choice of playing with a toy or sitting in the boring bathroom waiting to pee, which do you think a child will choose? The toy, every time.
    Don't give her the choice and don't expect her to be mature enough to willingly stop playing. Don't wait for her to tell you she needs to go. Don't even ask her if she has to (she'll tell you what she wishes were true... NO!). Simply tell her it is time to try. If she pees, reset your mental timer for 2 hours. If she doesn't pee, take her back in 1/2 an hour.

    If you can stand the wet panties or the puddles, the ditch the pullups. They really do slow things down.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 4:56 PM on May. 13, 2009

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