My son, David, will be eight at the end of June, and usually he's a good boy. But lately, he's turned into a demon. I feel like I can't reach him. With his two older sisters, I can talk with them, but not him. And I am running out of ideas to get to him. I don't want to have to resort to yelling and spanking, which I only use as a last resort anyway, but he pushes it that far where it's all but necessary. He yells that he hates me, usually when he doesn't get his way. I have tried ignoring this, telling him it isn't nice, taking stuff away like his games, but NOTHING IS WORKING...and I feel like I am losing control with him. I want to get a handle on him NOW while he is little because if I don't, once he is older and bigger...I don't even want to think about it! So please help, with any suggestions if you have or are dealing with this kind of thing.
Answer by malindasb at 11:57 PM on May. 13, 2009
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Answer by Nathskitten at 11:50 PM on May. 13, 2009
Try more carrots. Find something he really likes and let his good polite behavior earn it. My son (6) earns weekend Xbox time in 10 minute increments for doing his own grooming, chores, homework and cleaning up after himself. He usually ends up with anywhere from 20 minutes to 1 1/2 hours.
When he gets really rude I get real rude back and then we have the "If your nice, I'm nice, if your mean, I'm mean" talk. His Dad also gets on him for disrespecting me. Don't know what I would do without him.
One particularly bad week (whinning & rude mouthed ) I almost filled a jar with marbles to increase his accountability. The idea was every time he was rude he lost a marble. Then Saturday we'd go to the peter piper and he would get a token for each marble left in the jar. No marbles, No tokens. Your guys older so it might work.
Answer by Shesapeach at 11:56 PM on May. 13, 2009
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