Start 30 min before bedtime picking up toys, putting whatever she likes to sleep with in her bed, getting last minute snacks & drinks, runs to the potty, talking to grandma, etc, etc, etc.
Then at bedtime... that's it. Everything's been covered - time to go to bed. Put her to bed. If she screams, let her. If she leaves her room, put her back. You know her needs have been met & at this point, she's just playing you.
If grandma is the type to step in.... make it clear to her that this is your child & that you've determined, as her parent, that she has a bedtime that she has to stick to.
That's what I'd do, anyways.
at 11:16 AM on May. 14, 2009