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would you have sympathy for someone who had a baby @ 13/14/15 had their parents adopt the child so you can have a "normal teen life"??

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:30 PM on May. 14, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Im confused on whats ur question??
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • no way.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:34 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • someone gets preg and has a baby at 13/14/or 15 ... would you have sympathy for them bc their parents adopted the child for them so they could lead a normal life as a teen? ... would u "oh im so sorry u went thru that" or "u should have cared for YOUR child , u made it not ur parents!"
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:34 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • I went to school with this girl, she was 15 and had a two year old little girl. She was always out with friends and did poorly in school. She said she was not going to try to get a job once she was old enough to and often said she was mad at her mom because her mom said once she got her license she wouldn't be allowed to drive with the baby. She complained that her mom was overbaring and wouldn't let her raise her daughter the way she wanted to. She said her mother owed it to her to pay for diapers and wipes and formula and clothes and toys, and that it was her mom's fault she had to buy formula because she wanted to drop out so she breastfeed so her mom made her stay in school and she wasn't able to breastfeed. I didn't have any respect for her as a mother. She complained about everything and was greatful for nothing.
    Crystal1124

    Answer by Crystal1124 at 1:38 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • I am a parent of a then 14 yr old who did have a child and couldn't handle it and I am then and now still raising that child and we are about to adopt him... 8 yrs later... There is NO sympathy it's fear of the unknown, the inability to take on harder responsibilities... some girls can do it with the help of their parents, but there are those who can not and for those who can not handle it's not a matter of living out their teen yrs, they completely walk away from the child and the family most often.
     

    gmasboy

    Answer by gmasboy at 1:38 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • Sympathy isn't the emotion I'd feel. Respect for the parents/grandparents for taking on a burden not their own tempered with a little lack of sympathy for them because they probably wanted to keep sex education out of the schools and teach abstinence only.

    For the girl? A little disgust at the notion that she thinks she's old enough to have sex, but grateful that she knows she's not capable of raising a child properly.
    Avarah

    Answer by Avarah at 2:01 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • This happened with a girl I know. She was 13 when she had her baby and her grandmother is raising the girl. Not the girl's mom, but her grandmother is raising the baby. Then she goes and gets knocked up again and nobody knows who the father of this baby is eithier. I feel no sympathy for her. She knew how woman got pregnant but she made the choice to have sex when she was 12.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:26 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • Sympathy isn't the emotion I'd feel. Respect for the parents/grandparents for taking on a burden not their own tempered with a little lack of sympathy for them because they probably wanted to keep sex education out of the schools and teach abstinence only.


    And this IS NOT all true either.... it is the choice of the girl to have sex not the parents... my dd's both attended sex ed classes, did they do the trick ... most likely NO bc 1/2 of the became pg within the yr following it... go freakin figure...
    We as a parent can teach, ground, punish or whatever all we want... educating, talking etc... but in the end it IS the girls choice (knowing what can happen) to have sex.
    gmasboy

    Answer by gmasboy at 2:39 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • gmasboy - the key to your statements is "knowing what can happen."
    Avarah

    Answer by Avarah at 2:42 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • Obviously the parents knew their daughter woudln't be capable or mature enough to deal with raising a child. They seem to have done the right thing. No, no sympathy. She'll grow up and realize this.
    jeanclaudia

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 3:04 PM on May. 14, 2009

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