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how do you teach your new 12 year old basic good manners and responsibilty when they have had it before with out being the mean one all the time?

i have been in my families life for two years now and the kids have no sense of basic manners or responsibilities it always causes fights b/c he doesn't stand up to his kids he feels sorry for them since there mother isn't there for them but he asked me to pick up where she left off and i did so how is that suppossed to make me feel its not my fault she didn't do what she should of and im tired of always being the bad guy or always being in a bad mood B/c i'm the only one trying to teach them i'm just tired of always being the bad one

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Asked by ssysto at 9:33 PM on May. 14, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Incentives and a lot of fun! They won't accept it any other way at that age!

    Answer by TeaAnderson at 9:42 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • Manners and responsibility need to be taught from a very young age. A 1 yr old can say please and thank you. It may not be perfect, but at least it is a start. You could get the child a book on manners for kids, insist on proper manners at the table or they leave the table. When they do something wrong, the suffer the consequences, and dad needs to help and stand up to his kids.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:43 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • you need to get his help but you can do this. how you teach it bdepends on what kind of manners we are talking about. table manners especially if it is a girl are easy tell her Guys won't want to date her if she chews with her mouth open and other things.

    Answer by Lyndall at 11:00 PM on May. 14, 2009

  • He needs to back you up when your trying to teach them what they should have learned a long time ago. All you can do is keep trying and have a lot of patience.

    Answer by sammiesmom2000 at 11:57 PM on May. 14, 2009

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