I saw in a previous thread that Kansas is one of the states that allows unconditional access of the information in the original birth certificate. Is this only after the adoptee is an adult? My DD was born in KS in 2004 and I was not able to get a copy of her OBC. They told me that I cannot request it, and her bmom cannot request it. She has to wait until she is 18 and she can request it. I live in Iowa and I have one for my son. I know that adult adoptees sometimes like to have the original document, and I want to do what I can to help them put the pieces together.
A related question - some people say it is not right for the adoptive parents to put the info together, but that they should allow the adoptee to do it himself or herself. Can any adoptees share how they feel about this? Thanks!
Your information is correct, and should be a relief to you that your child's OBC is only available to her as an adult for security reasons. As per your second question, I am not an adoptee, but I am somewhat of a "know-it-all" about adoption:D
Betty Jean Lifton, a famous adoptee author, wrote in her book "A Journey of the AdoptedÂ Self" that the search helped her deal with her issues around adoption. Adoptees generally agree with her, the ones who were found, the ones that are rejected or searchingÂ say it's BS and would just love someone to help them search.
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