My daughters father has been around 6 months out of 3 years. He has been in and out of jail. He is now just taking me for full custody because I refuse to agree on visitation woth him. For the longest time I stayed with him because I thought it was best for my daughter. Then I found out he was using heroin on top of the physical, verbal, and emotional abuse he put me thru while pregnant and infront of her up until 27 months. I've sheds many tears over the fact that my daughter does not have a true father and now that he has decided to step up... I am VERY scared. I honestly believe that she is better off without him because of the things he does and the person he has become.
I have a restaining order with both of our names on it but it says subject to family court...
I am terrified that he is going to get to see her and he is going to do something to hurt her!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:14 PM on May. 17, 2009 in General Parenting
With the history you have described, assuming much of it is documented, you should not have trouble getting a family court judge to order supervised visitation only. As your daughter grows up, teach her that her father loves her and wants to be part of her life, but that he has an illness (drug addiction?) and it has caused him to make some poor choices. She can have a true father, while being protected at the same time. If you have full custody, the example of strength you set for her will help her grow to be a confident young lady with plenty of self-esteem and self-worth. I hope everything works out for both of you.
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