Think with your head as well as your heart. Think of him as an old man with thin hair, a little paunch, wrinkles. Consider how good a provider he is. How he treats children, animals, waitresses, sales clerks, his parents, his grandparents, your parents and grandparents. Do you have similar ideas about money? About religion? About how to raise children? Similar goals in life? Similar values? Do you talk and talk with him and enjoy what he says and you feel he enjoys what you say, too? Speaking of children, does he want what you want by way of number of children, whether you'll work or stay at home? if they'll go to private school? college? Does he treat you with respect? I'd been told that I'd know when I found the right person, and it is true, I did. We discussed important issues and felt comfortable with each other. Almost 39 years of marriage ago.
at 9:33 PM on May. 17, 2009