I have 3 kids, my oldest will be 5 this summer. My kids are great. I'm not delusional, they have naughty days. I have bad days too. DH want's to have another. I'm done. He thinks that because our kids are so great we should keep having more and more. He's not helpful much anymore and actually makes things more difficult when he's around. I've told him that I don't want to have anymore kids because he's not as involved as he used to be. With our first he was great and very involved. Our second was born and he became less helpful. We now have a 3rd and he has no idea! I've told him this too! He thinks I don't want anymore because days with the kids can be difficult. He put's the no more baby blame on the kids. Really it's him. I would love to have atleast one more if he were more helpful and could lessen the load on me, especially on difficult days.
Answer by Liyoness at 3:15 AM on May. 18, 2009
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Answer by alynncole at 2:43 AM on May. 18, 2009
Why don't you set a date........and say, "when the youngest is 3 we can reevaluate where we are" so you aren't totally closing the door, but you aren' leaving it open either. I wanted a 4th, but those crazy days, like to described, do scare me and I don't know if I can do it. I know how you feel and my kids arealmost 8, 5, and almost 3. Stand your ground because you need to be happy and healthy to care for the ones you've got.
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