I found a note on the floorboard of the car. It was written by my dd to a frnd. The note stated that it had only happend once with a certain boy, of course it didn't state what happened. So, Iasked her about it. She confessed that she had oral sex with this boy. I was devostated! My heart is broken. She's always been a confident teen. She is a leader at school and church. I just didn't think she would not have enough respect for herself to do that. She said she felt degraded and sick afterward and that she will never do it again. She said she did it because she thought he would want her instead of another girl he was interested in. I feel like I failed bigtime! I'm numb and heartbroken! I cried,told her how i felt about it. I told her that I don't look at her differently, but I do and I'm affraid she will see it. I feel like there is nothing I can do but love her through it.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:55 AM on May. 18, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:15 PM on May. 18, 2009
You should not be taking it personally. It can be hard when our teens choose different beliefs than we hold, but your attitude is clearly making her feel badly about herself & her actions. Instead of telling her you are disappointed, try talking to her about making decisions that make her happy with herself. She knows your feelings on oral sex and it is always good to explain how you came to your beliefs, but now encourage her to develop her own opinion on the matter. Then encourage her to feel strong and empowered to make decisions based on HER beliefs. Also make sure she knows that sexually transmitted diseases can be spread through oral sex.
Answer by nysa00 at 2:06 PM on May. 18, 2009