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can you lose custody?

so when they are old enough to choose where they want to live, if the other non custdial parent (is the dad), an they have no job, no DL, can they still get custody?


Asked by Anonymous at 4:01 PM on May. 18, 2009 in General Parenting

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Answers (7)
  • It depends on the state you live in and the judge.

    Answer by etsmom at 4:43 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • Even if the child wants to live with the other parent, the Judge will consider if it's in the best interest of the child. I just don't see it being in the best interest of the child to be placed with a parent who has no job and no DL.

    Answer by SlapHappi at 4:06 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • It all depends on the judge. They usually don't let children live with a parent unless they know they can provide for them. I think you have to be twelve to be able to decide for themself's. But it depends. does he have money??


    Answer by akmami0f4 at 4:08 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • Why not. There are many moms on here with no jobs and no DL who have custody. If mom can be a welfare case why can't dad and still get custody.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • no he doesnt have any money, his daughter gets a check from SSI from her mama dying, and thats all he lives off of, we are talking 450.00 a month tops, an no he doesnt save it for her, an hez only got it for 2 more yrs..

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:17 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • The judge can award custody and child support.

    Answer by rkoloms at 4:32 PM on May. 18, 2009

  • In most states, a child's choice is only part of the equation of where a child should live. Just because a dad doesn't have a job doesn't mean he is a bad or unfit father. In fact, because he would be home for most of the time means he could be a stay at home parent, just like a stay at home mommy. In which case the mom would have to pay CS and get visitation. And depending on the area, a lack of driver's license does not have to mean lack of transportation. There are buses and subways in a lot of the US.

    Answer by lilangilyn at 5:35 PM on May. 18, 2009