My oldest 2 are from a previous relationship and their father is a fantastic daddy who is very involved in their lives. They do not need another father. I'd like my current partner to be more like a favorite uncle - supportive, loving, ready to lend a hand, but leave the discipline to mom and dad.
Current partner does not like the way I parent & feels I'm too soft, so he steps in and sets all sorts of rules that I do not want to enforce and speaks to the kids using "we" implying I agree with it all. He works 3rd shift, so he does not see the family except weekends for the most part. Because of this I am left enforcing the rules he set and it causes a lot of disagreements when he learns I'm not following through. Example: my 15 year old is too young to get a job at most places, yet he feels she should pay for big money items - driver's ed, rugby fees. I say, she stays out of trouble, helps out and she's earned those things.
Answer by mommymeg03 at 9:05 PM on May. 18, 2009
I think you should not be with someone you don't trust or want to help parent your kids it will cause to many problems I have seen it with my in laws
Answer by abellvalerie at 9:06 PM on May. 18, 2009
Answer by 3_is_enough at 9:07 PM on May. 18, 2009
Answer by momofkearra at 9:08 PM on May. 18, 2009
He is not the parent so he shouldn't try. This is a big issue and if he can't respect you enough to let you do what you are supposed to with your kids with your ex, thn he isn't the one for you.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:08 PM on May. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:09 PM on May. 18, 2009
You just have to tell him listen. I don't need your help when i comes to the kids unless I ask for your opinion. I have told mine. I told him listen these are my children and I will take care of it and if you don't like it. I am sorry. But that's the way it is. If you don't like it there's the door
Answer by akmami0f4 at 9:09 PM on May. 18, 2009
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