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OK to lose sympathy for panhandlers?

I am still very sympathetic toward children in desperate situations. But not so much toward adults who I feel can better themselves. I understand that bad luck strikes, I have had my fair share too. However, I have worked my way up from the very bottom (below rock bottom). And, I feel that others can do the same.

I'm just tired of people introducting themselves with a disclaimer of why they are not able to function, when I know that there is a place for everyone. For those who need help, there is free help available (just as long as there is evident effort for self-improvement).

Am I in the right to be irritated at those who continuously say "I can't"?

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on May. 19, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

Answers (26)
  • You're in the right to be irritated at whatever you like.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:18 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Never say never, is what I always say. Everything is possible! As for panhandlers, I never give money. I will give food and water to them if I happen to have some with me.

    Answer by BEXi at 3:18 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Yes, you're fully right to be irritated. You can mostly lump panhandlers into one group: lazy, unmotivated, drunk/alcoholic wastes of human flesh. I cannot help but feel anger towards these people. They plague my city's streets and parks (which could be better used by kids, but aren't because their parents won't let them play around bums.) I have a brother who has cerebral palsy. I'm sure that he could get loads of money off the corner from people who pity him. Instead, he holds down a real job. He doesn't use his disability as an excuse.

    Answer by MommyDumDum at 3:20 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • ((applause)) for mommydumdum. I completely agree. They could get a job doing something. Even if they just walked around collecting pop cans - it's better than just standing there begging. My SIL went thru a phase where she and her friends would stand on corners begging - she would get $100's every day. She's just lazy and doesn't want to work! Ever since then I've been turned off to it.

    Answer by goldenfox at 3:23 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • I thought about this every day.. Say someone sits at a stop light for 5 hours. And say each hour, the stoplight turns redevery 3-5 minutes. If a person got 50 cents each red light, imagine how much money that could be right there.. Its crazy, panhandlers make more than most working Americans!

    Answer by BEXi at 3:25 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • not everyday,, the OTHER day. lol.

    Answer by BEXi at 3:26 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • I can't look at a panhandler and know what is in their heart and soul. Only God can....
    I give whatever I can and I'm thankful I have been blessed.

    Answer by Grandmarga at 3:26 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Okay say a red light every 5 minutes. Thats 12 stoplights in one hour. Say they get 50 cents each red light, thats 6$ an hour. Isnt that a little over minimum wage already (atleast here in NC its more the min wage). And I know they average out more than 50cents a stop light... im gonna become a bum. Lemme break out my cardboard sign and sharpie.

    That reminds me.. lol.. I always wonder where they get the sharpie from to write the signs. Very interesting.... :P

    Answer by BEXi at 3:29 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • I give what I can to official charities and let them weed out the bad apples. I've heard of and personally know of too many scam artists to give money directly to panhandlers.


    Answer by kaycee14 at 3:35 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Oh yeah- Here where I live the homeless have to apply for a license to panhandle (crazy, I know..) They give those who qualify orange vests. I dont give anything to anyone without an orange vest.

    Answer by BEXi at 3:45 PM on May. 19, 2009

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