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My 14 year old daughter just found out her 2 best friends are doing drugs and drinking

How an I help her to move on to another group of friends without her getting teased by these 2 girls? She is wanting to help them, but thinks its a lost cause.

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crazy4now

Asked by crazy4now at 5:47 PM on May. 19, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I think as a parent you need to let these girls parents know what they are doing.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:48 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Agree ^^^ and just don't let your daughter hang with them.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:51 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • If your daughter was drinking and doing drugs, wouldn't you want to know? You need to tell the parents.
    Now, you need to get and keep your daughter very busy. Call the Red Cross and find a babysitting class. My 13 year is a Red Cross certified babysitter, she usually charges $7 an hour and earned $75 last weekend (half of her earnings go to savings). Can you send her to overnight camp for a few weeks? Is there a friend or neighbor who can use a mother's helper? Is there a park district with classes (art, dance, sailing, etc.)? We are constantly getting emails from our daughter's school with summer educational programs; check with your daughter's counselor for opportunities. If she loves animals, she can volunteer at a shelter. She can adopt a grandparent at a senior home. Get creative and get her busy!
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 7:36 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • As a fellow adult, you need to tell their parents.
    Make sure your daughter knows she did the right thing by telling. There is a huge difference between being a tattle-tale and being responsible and it is very hard for kids to learn that. She did great by bringing a problem that was too big and too dangerous to an adult she trusted - YOU.

    Then get your daughter into other activites over the summer... take up karate, dance, etc. If she shares any activities with these girls, change them... lessons at a different time or day, new girl scout troop, etc. Since summer is almost here, it will be easier to drop these girls and pick up new friends over the summer or fall. Also talk to the school and request they not be in the same class (or home room) next year.
    kaycee14

    Answer by kaycee14 at 8:28 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • tell there parents...
    hug4akiss

    Answer by hug4akiss at 10:24 PM on May. 19, 2009

  • Follow her lead and give her whatever she needs to make new friends. It isn't simple - cause those girls are still around, and other kids may already have their routine with friends. Camps are good, but they might not help her find daily 'best' friends. I'd let her know that now more than ever, she can invite friends over or you'll take them to the movies/shopping/beach/park if she wants - give her opportunities to get to know other kids.
    PhillyinFrance

    Answer by PhillyinFrance at 2:54 AM on May. 20, 2009

  • Oh gosh, 14 and drinking and doing drugs?! That's so sad, they're throwing their lives away and they don't even realize it yet!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:23 AM on May. 21, 2009

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