I have a 13 year old step son. He simply doesn't want to comply or he "forgets" the rule. One rule we have is that he must close doors (both inside and outside doors). His bedroom is in the basement and he is constantly leaving the basement door open. When that door is open you can't come in from the outside because the outside door hits it. The doors are already getting damaged. We had him write 100 times that he would close the door and my husband also showed him what is happening to the door. We reminded him last night and guess what? The door was left open again this morning. It simply isn't sinking in.What do you suggest other than taking the door off the hinge?Answer Question
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Answer by Rebecca727 at 12:45 PM on May. 20, 2009
Add a positive reinforcement sense punishment hasn't worked. Studies on behavior show that positive reinforcement produces more long lasting results than punishment and does not have to be used as consistently to be effective. Notice when he does follow the rule and complement him. Set a goal starting with a week or a few days. If he can remember to follow a rule for a whole week you and him can go do something togetherthat he enjoys. Added bonus: not getting the reward he was looking forward to becomes the punishment, he becomes very involved in whether or not he gets what he wants. He creates his own consequence with his own behavior.
Also, in the case of the door you can buy a hinge with a spring in it that automatically closes the door after you. This won't teach him the rule but it will allow you to stop pulling your hair out over a door and focus on bigger, more important rules.
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