The love of my life lost his wife due to alcoholism 6 months ago. They had a very bad marriage, but they have 3 beautiful kids, ages 15, 13, and 10. He and I have stayed in touch for 19 years, living 1200 miles apart. We both love each other very much and we want to be together and finally have a life together with all of our kids.
He had an agreement with his oldest (15) that he wouldn't date for 9 months and I agree with that and respect that choice. The kids need time to greive and deal with what has happened.
I visited him last weekend after not seeing him for 4 years. The love between us was definitely still there and he said that he wanted me in his life. I am eager to relocate closer to him. However, he now says that his kids may never be ready for him to move on and date again. Should they be allowed to dictate that pasrt of his life? If they tell him not to date again, ever, should he honor that request?
Answer by CarolynBarnett at 12:13 PM on May. 21, 2009
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Answer by TopNotchMaMa20 at 12:27 PM on May. 21, 2009
He might want to wait a year after the death of his wife to start dating again. But letting his kids dictate if he can or can not date or marry,,is stupid..He might want to wait to marry or live with another women tell after the kids are grown. But the kids have know right to decide when and if the father can date,,he is the father not them(the kids). If you want to move closer to him so you two can see each other more,,that's fine,,but don't push him into a serious relationship..It might back fire
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