Both are old enough to understand either sticker charts for good days or fines for bad days. Your choice but the positve rewards usually work better.
I'd suggest breaking the day into sections to start with. If he doesn't mouth off in the morning, he gets a star. Good from noon to 4? Star. 4 to bedtime? Star. If he has three stars at the end of the day, maybe he gets a small reward.
Or you could offer him two warnings during the day - and mark them on the chart. If he gets to the end of the day with only those warnings, he gets a star. Collect 5 stars and get reward - maybe a toy from the dollar store or a trip to the ice cream store for a cone?
Also, if you have any rudeness issues yourself, admit to them. Let your sons know that it's not right for ANYONE to be rude or hurtful. If necessary, add yourself to the chart and don't get mad at your boys for calling you on it. And be honest about it... if they earn rewards and you don't, you d
at 12:01 AM on Aug. 10, 2008