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what should i do

i love my df and want to be with him for the rest of my life but lately i have been getting so irritated with him very easily... and i have trid my best to get back into shape after i had our baby 5 months ago i am the same size as i was before i got pregnant..... i feel like he is doing nothing to get himself into shape... and its making me feel like i have to look good but hr doesnt... i think im becoming unattracted to him what should i do?

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Asked by jaksonsmommy at 1:58 PM on May. 22, 2009 in Relationships

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  • ahh that can be a scary feeling. try talking to him. thats really all you can do if you still want to be with him. maybe ask him to start going to the gym with you..

    Answer by em9x at 2:02 PM on May. 22, 2009

  • Maybe he knows he doesn't look as hot as he use to. So he is doing what psychologists call "mirroring" where he's pointing out flaws in you that are really flaws in him. It's a self-esteem thing. You need to tell him you love your body the way it looks and that if he doesn't like it there's the door buddy. LOL Any man (or person in general) who attacks another person usually has their own issues that they just either don't want to deal with or are afraid to admit.

    don't let him make you feel inferior. You worked hard to get your pre-pregnant body. if he can't see the outer and INNER beauty in you, maybe he doesn't deserve to be with you.

    Talk to him, and if he is just too closed off emotionally and continues this immature behavior maybe you need to move on. Hopefully though you can work things out. :)

    Answer by CinderAmethyst at 2:58 PM on May. 22, 2009

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