I suspected him but never insisted on a resolution. Six weeks ago I finally the confession I was waiting for but what he has told me, in pieces, over these weeks is that it was a lot worse than I suspected and went on way longer than I thought. He even called her to corroborate his shortened story version so I wouldn't find out the whole truth till he could get me into marriage counseling to work it out. But she outed instead him on an affair he had prior to her in which she claims he fathered a son. We would've been married 24 years but I don't want him anymore. The last 10 years of my marriage have been a complete lie. My therapist says we should all trust our instincts. Even my dreams of him cheating were trying to tell me something. I heard the message but didn't push the issue hard enough--he would lie, deny, and get angry. Affairs should never be entered into lightly--they destroy families.
at 11:09 PM on May. 22, 2009