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Whats a good visitation schedule for an almost 4 & an almost 2 year old??

We're trying to find a good balance with my step sons spending time with both Mommy (who's been "stay-at-home" up until this point) and Daddy.

We're trying a 3-4-4-3 schedule right now. (3 days with dad, 4 days with mom, 4 days with dad, 3 days with mom, cont.) and that seems to be working but the almost 4 year old, will (hopefully) be starting school in the fall. We don't live too far apart and we're in the same school district, so that's not a problem, we just need to find a balance.

Any suggestions?

Any success or unsuccessful stories?

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Asked by blu_ied_gurl at 12:08 AM on May. 25, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Maybe you have him Sunday through Wednesday and the Dad have him Thursday through Saturday, so you both get a day on the weekend to see him.

    Answer by kimberly197830 at 10:03 AM on May. 25, 2009

  • WOW! here's an idea. let the child stay in one place, and you parents move back and forth. he doesn't need two homes. that's a lot of inconsistency for a child. if both parents are on the same track as far as rules and discipline for the child, that will help immensely. it's a big big deal. it's good that you live near one another. it sounds like your schedule is probably best for your child, as is. if you and dad are flexible with one another, and don't fight in front of the kids, you're doing the best you can in this situation. good luck!

    Answer by vickiathome at 10:18 AM on May. 25, 2009

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