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why would a husband want to stop trying to make

a marriage work????? i want to try,he doesnt should i just let go????

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:27 PM on May. 26, 2009 in Relationships

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  • If he doesn't want to there isn't anything you can do but let go. It sucks and it hurts but that's the truth. He may not love you, he maybe lazy or he doesn't see the worth in y'alls marriage. Unfortunately you can't force him to do the work. Please don't waste your time and energy that you will need to start over in a new life.

    Answer by Tawanda74 at 2:29 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • Some people are of the mind that if you're compatible it should just work out by itself. Reality is that everything takes work. Marriage doesn't give you a day off...parenting doesn't give you a day off. There's another person outside of yourself to think of, it's "work" (we don't like to use that word...I think it's reminds us of negatives)

    Answer by EireLass at 2:31 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • yeah...what they said =)
    i'm sorry you're hurting

    Answer by bestmommyeber at 2:42 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • It could be any number of things, but you can do a lot to make it work by yourself if you are willing to invest the emotion. He may never reciprocate, but you will be happier and more fulfilled. What you do is you make your life about making him happy. Too many marriage partners begin to think about themselves and their unhappiness. While they are doing this, they are really contributing to the demise of the marriage. If you really want your marriage to work. start trying to do one special loving act just for your husband every day. Don't do it with the expectation that you will receive anything in return or that it will change him in any way. Do it just to show the man that you love him and that you think of him and what makes him happy. It could be a special meal, or a little gift of something he's been wanting for a while, or just meeting him at the door with a hug when he comes home from work. Be creative!!

    Answer by NannyB. at 2:44 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • Ask yourself this....can a marriage work if only
    ONE person is working on it..
    NO it can not.
    You may hear oh honey go do this for yourself go do that, but in the end you are still where you are at because it takes TWO people to save a marriage.

    Trust me his heart and everything was already out before he told you he no longer wanted to be married to you...

    You need to get strong and realize that you want a man, a real man not a

    Answer by Dannee at 3:01 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • If he's moved out there isn't much you can do but as long as you're still living under the same roof you can work quietly to get him to realize you're serious by changing some of the things we do all of the time that drives our mates away. Most important, don't push him, don't cry and beg. You can't make someone love you, but you can be a person that people want to love.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 3:02 PM on May. 26, 2009

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