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How To Break The News?

My husband and I have decided to relocate, which in turn means leaving the place where we both grew up and both of our families behind. Here's where the trouble comes in, how in the world do we break the news to our parents, our children's grandparents? While we expect both to be upset about having their grandchildren move over 1,000 miles away, the bigger issue is that my parents are very likely to accuse us of being entirely irresponsible. So how would you break the news?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:13 PM on May. 26, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I dont think there is any easy way to tell them! I would invite them out for dinner in a public place so they cant make a big deal right there, maybe give them time to cool down before they get a chance to really say what they want! lol But it is really yours and your husbands choice, and if you feel your doing the right thing for your family then thats all that matters! Just make sure you let your parents know you will vist and they are more than welcome to vist too!

    Answer by mrsmamaj at 8:16 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • You are adults who have to make adult decisions. It's your life, not your parents. Not to sound harsh, but you can not spend your life worrying about what others think of you. Even your parents, if they are not supportive. It's a hard enough decision to leave, let alone to have confrontation about it! Good luck!

    Answer by michelle121003 at 8:18 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • It's your decision, not theirs to make. You need to stand your ground, and no matter how much they say you are being irresponsible, explain to them that you have thought this through, budgeted your money and have things set for financial emergencies. You don't really owe them an explanation, but if you feel the need to give one that's what i would say. And move on.

    Either they will understand, or try to guilt you into staying. And if that's the case or they are manipulative control freaks, then maybe it's a good thing that you are moving far, far away.

    good luck.

    Answer by CinderAmethyst at 8:30 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • Send them all an announcement and explain why you think it's best to make the move and tell them that you will miss them very much but there's always letters, emails, even video cam so they can see the grandkids as well as vcr and dvd camcorders.
    That way they can have time to think about your reasons and that you're going to go one way or the other. In fact, state in the announcement that you'd appreciate none of them trying to talk you out of it, that you've thought about it, and you're going to do it and you want the time left here with them to be happy times.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 8:43 PM on May. 26, 2009

  • Just break it! We are a Military family and move all over the U.S. haven't even seen a relative in over 3 years. It is OUR life, we chose to do what we do and everyone excepts it! There are plane tickets, Internet, phone calls etc. There is always a way to keep in touch.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:48 PM on May. 26, 2009

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