I can't take much more of this. She just turned 4 a month ago and every since she turned 4 she thinks it is ok to TALK BACK to me and thinks it is ok to TELL ME WHAT SHE IS GOING TO DO. I told her I don't know who she thinks she is talking too. I have put her in time out, sent her to her room, spanked her, and took things away from her, but she still trys talking back and things. But it isn't just that she has this whinning thing now I can't take anymore. You can't tell her anything cause every single little thing you tell her she cries. You can't even joke with her she gives you this hateful look or she will cry. If it was her at the age of 12 or so I would say it was her about to start her period lol cause that is how bad it is. Help me before I loose my mind what can I do about the whinning, crying and the talking back anf thinking she can tell me what she is going to do?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:26 AM on May. 27, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by ladysavage at 8:29 AM on May. 27, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 8:35 AM on May. 27, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 10:02 AM on May. 27, 2009
My daughter who just turned 5 is exactly the same way...has been for a while...I've tried just about everything and the only thing that seems to work is giving her choices...like instead of saying its time to go to bed...i give her a list of things to do to get ready for bed...like you have to clean up your toys,brush your teeth and hair and put on your jammies. I let her decide which order to do them in, because the one i want her to do will be the one she doesnt want to do.
Â Ive made it a game on especially difficult nights, well race to get things done or go by a stop watch. It seems to keep her mind off of whining and keeps it focused.
Oh and the talking back stuff...geeze the talking back stuff...Weve been through that too and its gotten better here lately. If she would back talk I don't let it get a rise out of me...because thats what she wants-hehe-I'll ignore her and change the subject. I know you want to let her know youre the mom and that youre the boss but with my daughter atleast it was all about the attention.
I never used spanking, and time outs were just more fuel to her fire and more stress...Taking things away worked a few times but she didnt really seem
Hope that helps somewhat and good luck
Answer by bumblebeestingu at 10:17 AM on May. 27, 2009
Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 11:06 AM on May. 27, 2009