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I have a son who's father just got incarcerated

I am currently single and dont have any males because i come from a small family. My son has began fighting school almost everyday and throwing tantrums. i've tried spankings and punishment but nothing seems to be working i dont know what to do. i want the best for my child and for him to come out right

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:54 PM on May. 27, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • talk with the principal, and/or teachers. see if they have an angle to approach him. sit him down at night and let him do the talking. chances are he's acting out his frustration. not having that male figure isn't helping either, get involved in BBBS too. or some other mentor program.
    m4m4

    Answer by m4m4 at 8:43 AM on May. 28, 2009

  • see about getting him a big brother of america. well if you live in america. and try you local churches see if the have groups like it
    Mama2onelilboy

    Answer by Mama2onelilboy at 10:59 PM on May. 27, 2009

  • If his father just got incarcerated (you don't say how involved he was in DS's life) he may be acting out because he doesn't know how to express his feelings of fear, hurt, and anger in the situation. IMHO, he is too old for spankings, and it is a temporary fix. If you want your son to NOT follow in his father's footsteps, then you need to do things differently for your son. Try to get him a counselor, Medicaid will pay for it, you can get a referral from his pediatrician. He probably wouldn't even go that long, but he will be able to do some "play therapy" or talk to the counselor. Could he be being teased about his father being in jail? How do you break the cycle? Get some help. The big brother thing is a great idea. You want to teach him how to make good choices. You sound like a loving mother who would do anything to get him on the right track. Hang in there, you have a support group here.
    doodlebopfan

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:48 AM on May. 28, 2009