My at the time 16 yo dd started dating a boy that just turned 18. Well since my dd had been dating him her attitude changed, she was short and moody with everyone in the house and she went from being on the honor roll to just barely passing some classes with very low C's. Her GPA literally dropped more than a point! We told her that if she got anything lower than C's in any of her classes that her friends and her boyfriend were no more! We discussed this at length with her and she said she fully understood. Well low and behold the attitude got worse and the grades went down even more and she got a D. Well we told her that she had to break up with her boyfriend and totally focus on school. Now come to find out she told my oldest son that she was going to get back with him come hell or high water and see him behind our backs. What would you ladies do in this situation?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:43 AM on May. 28, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by babyboomer1957 at 9:01 AM on May. 28, 2009
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Answer by lexisandjayden at 12:37 PM on May. 28, 2009
quoting the poster above me. I had to get weekly progress reports every Friday. If I missed a homework assignment or got a D on a test I was grounded for the weekend. I would put strict rules on phone/computer/cell phone until her grades are up. a tutor would be a good idea if you think that is the problem but if she was getting good graded before I don't think she would all of a sudden need help. Is it possible she is into drugs or alcohol and that is the reason for the behavior change? That was my first thought seeing that is what happened to me in high school.
Answer by beckygeiger at 1:51 PM on May. 28, 2009
I know this is going to sound completely backwards, but I'm going to say it anyway. You have to use a little manipulation in this situation. Confiscate the cell, computer, and phone in her room after 10:00 PM so she doesn't stay up all night talking, texting, IM, etc. Tell her that she can see him Fri, Sat, and Sun only. Mon. - Thurs. nights are for school. She can talk to him after studying until 10:00 PM. Make this compromise so that she is able to see how the compromise exercise work. The kicker comes in when you let her know that if she doesn't repair her GPA and work on that attitude, she would loose her privilages starting with dating. As they become these young adult wanna-bees you have to start treating them as "adults" and not little children. It is a delicate dance. If you take too much away, she rebels. If you take too little, its ineffective. Good Luck!
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