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Why is it okay to spank children, but not adults?

Is it because of the fact that we are simply bigger and stronger than they are? Because let's face it, after a certain age, the whole spanking and popping thing isn't going to work, chances are they''ll probably "pop" you back. So why is it okay to hit little kids, but it's abuse when you hit your spouse?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:25 PM on May. 28, 2009 in General Parenting

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Answers (59)
  • ITA. Hitting an adult to "teach a lesson" isn't acceptable. So what makes physical punishment ok for kids? Nothing. It's just a sick abuse of power on the hitters end. Spanking is unhelpful. It's a lazy cop out of proper parenting discipline. But hey, you won't be charged w/ assault if it's a kid. So why not?
    jus1jess

    Answer by jus1jess at 7:18 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • it's abuse either way. You should never hit or pop kids or adults. Would you like to be hit?
    2wndrfl_btrflys

    Answer by 2wndrfl_btrflys at 4:30 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • it's abuse either way. You should never hit or pop kids or adults. Would you like to be hit?

    LOL!!!!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • when you spank you are using it as a form of disapline and it usuakky takes just a little bop to work with most kids. When spouses hit eachother it can be pretty fierce and full of anger, that's why they call it spousal abuse. When you spank a child its not abuse unless you continue to whomp on them over and over, then its child abuse. A little tap never hurt any child and most kids don't hold it against their parents..I don't and have never met anyone whose has regreted being spanked.....being abused is an entirely different story.
    Kimx3babies

    Answer by Kimx3babies at 4:32 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • when you hit or "pop" adults its out of anger, when you spank your child it's to teach them right from wrong so they don't go and hurt themselves or anyone else! It gets their attention and lets them understand the action they are taking is going to cause harm. After a certain age it is wrong to spank your child... when they're older so better hope you taught them right from wrong so they would understand!
    07lilmama1108

    Answer by 07lilmama1108 at 4:34 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • I have never heard of an adult being spanked as a form of abuse. Abusers normally hit their spouse in the face or kick or throw them. It's two completely different things that can not be compared.

    BTW, those adults who are spanked are usually doing so in their bedroom for pleasure.
    sammygrl77

    Answer by sammygrl77 at 4:38 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • OMG here we go. A child doesnt know any better, An adult does and if they dont than their either dumb or stupid. You cannot compare a child to an adult. Adults do not need discipline and if they do, than its because their PARENTS never gave it to them when they were CHILDREN. Children need to be spanked(redirected, timeouts,etc) so that they do not turn out to be undisciplined, disrespectful, immature adults.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:40 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • Why don't you ask your husband to spank you for burning dinner? Won't it teach you not to do it again?

    Why don't you? Because it's not okay to spank adults. Why? That is the question.
    apexmommy

    Answer by apexmommy at 4:40 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • "OMG here we go. A child doesnt know any better, An adult does and if they dont than their either dumb or stupid. You cannot compare a child to an adult. Adults do not need discipline and if they do, than its because their PARENTS never gave it to them when they were CHILDREN. Children need to be spanked(redirected, timeouts,etc) so that they do not turn out to be undisciplined, disrespectful, immature adults."

    What about a mentally challenged adult? Or an alzheimer's patient?
    apexmommy

    Answer by apexmommy at 4:41 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • Smacking a kid on the hand or spanking their butt is NOT ABUSE!!! Hitting them in the face, punching, kicking puliing them throwing them IS. THESE ARE TWO DIFFERENT ACTIONS.They are not comparable AT ALL. If a child touches a plug in you smack their hand. Better they feel the pain of your disapline then feel the pain of getting shocked!! Better to feel you spanking then feel the pain of getting hit by a car!!! It's a disapline tool to give them a quick warning that they will remember next time they are in that situation. IT"S NOT ABUSE, but every kid is different and some never need it
    Kimx3babies

    Answer by Kimx3babies at 4:42 PM on May. 28, 2009

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