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idk wat to do...

my boyfriend keeps getting himself into trouble, most recently he and a friend stole money from his friends mothers work. he now has to pay a fine of $1500 by this saturday of which he doesnt have the money, his car always is needing new things, he threw his cell phone at his windshield and shattered it and now needs a new one. i love him so much and he really can be a good person but im getting tired of doing EVERTHING for our son because he just keeps getting himself in trouble, im so tired of being the only responsible one while he goes out and does whatever he wants, idk wat to do, i want him to change and step up, idk if i should just stop wasting my time hoping he will get more mature or just move on which would be really hard to do...

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:18 PM on May. 28, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Can you see spending the rest of you life with him? Are you happy with what your child observes about the man in his life- about proper behavior for grownup male? Is this a person you can rely on in case of emergency, or do you cringe every day wondering what childish thing he has done now and wish that he'd grow up and be responsible and honest? It sound as if for the sake of your child that you can do much better than stay with this other immature person.

    Answer by Bmat at 7:24 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • Nice role model for your kid. Cut the bad boy loose and let him go. He's not going to change and loving him and draining yourself isn't going to make him change his ways. he's not going to 'grow up" now if he's already a man and a dad. The damage is done with him and this is what you'd get forever and ever amen.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:39 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • You can have love for someone, but that does not mean they are worthy of that love!

    IMO, this guy is not showing you any respect, love, or being a proper role model for his child! I understand that people can make mistakes, but when it becomes a habit, then you need to let him go. I'm going to put your own words back at you and point out something..."and he really can be a good person"...NOT he IS a good person, but he CAN be a good person...That statement right there proves that he is making chioces that affect you and your child, but yet, he doesn't care enough about either of you to 'man up' and start doing things right!

    It may be hard, but you need to lay down some rules AND he needs to follow them. Or you need to be strong for yourself and your child and cut him loose. Honestly, it doesn't sound like you would be missing anything but trouble and heartache.

    Good luck!

    Answer by ozarkgirl3 at 7:59 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • i think you need to get rid of him if he gets into trouble there is a great possibility you could get into trouble to guilty by association is not good plus you need to worry about your son

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:16 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • Sounds like a total loser. get over it, get over him, move on. Breaking up is "hard" but you know what? Growing up with a loser for a dad is harder. Do it for your kid.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:49 PM on May. 28, 2009

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