First of all, communication is key. Yes I personally would talk to the person and let them know what was going on. If you can't communicate with your SO about that, then in my opinion your lines of communication aren't open enough to even consider marriage. If you're in this situation then you need to take a few days to really get things together on what you want to tell him, in a nice way, and make sure that you are compassionate because this could really hurt him. I know it will be hard to talk to him, but I know from experience that it's the best thing to do. I hadn't had orgasms with my, at the time, boyfriend. Other than one here and there...maybe two in two years. Finally I sat him down and talked to him about it. We ended up going to the book store and finding books about orgasms and by the time it was all over with I am now having them almost every single time! If you love him, you'll talk to him about it...especially before even considering getting married.
at 11:03 AM on Jun. 21, 2008