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I'm expecting the father has not participated at all in pregnancy and has recently entered into a relationship with another women. Is it cruel to not allow him to be present at time of delivery?

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Asked by Autumn85 at 10:47 PM on May. 28, 2009 in Relationships

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  • No it is not. If you don't want him there, you don't have to let him in ther room. Just tell the nurses he can not come in if he shows up.

    Answer by itsallabtthem84 at 10:50 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • He hasn't been involved in your pregnancy and he's in a relationship with another woman? He does not deserve to see his child born. You are going to want people who love and care about you in the delivery room with you, not some uninvolved guy.

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 10:53 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • I feel it would be cruel if you are doing it because you are angry with him because
    he is no longer with you.

    If he has showed signs or has told you he wanted to be there, I see no reason why you should not allow that.

    Answer by Dannee at 10:54 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • I agree with Dannee, it depends on what your reasoning is for not wanting him there.

    Answer by Lovejoy0303 at 10:55 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • He should be able to see the baby when it's born, but I doubt he's going to even want to be in that room with you and I doubt his girlfriend is going to be okay wtih that idea either. But chances are since he's not had any interest in the baby so far, he won't then either. But don't let that stop you from getting the child support your child deserves. I'd have those papers ready and all filled in but name, date, and social security number.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 10:57 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • If he wants to be in the childs life and help you out financially and emotionally with the baby then you can allow him there, he doesn't necessarily have to be in the room for the delivery he can be right outside and be there to see his newborn right after. You should have ppl there that support you and are going to be there for you and the baby now and in the future and helping you raise him/her. You need to discuss this with the father in a civil manner without the new woman there to interfere. There's a lot of paperwork to fill out while you are at the hospital involving both parents information and decisions. If he wants in to be in the babys life he need to be a man and be there to help you make some of these decisions. Good Luck & Congrats!

    Answer by slynnb at 11:03 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • You should have the least-stressful and comfortable environment possible when you're giving birth. You owe much more to yourself and your baby than to some guy who can't be bothered to be involved with the development of your baby.

    Answer by guitarlove at 11:13 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • LOL sounds like he wants no part of it anyway so how can it be cruel?

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • People make mistakes. Don't hold a grudge against him. Let him the baby once it's born.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on May. 28, 2009

  • Remember, if he signs the birth certificate, he has as many legal rights to the child as you do.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on May. 28, 2009

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