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honestly have you ever thought about cheating?

has your DH ever made you feel lonley? or be married but still feel like a single mother?......I am not cheating i am not like that but i do understand why some ppl do .....i never thought i would understand it but now i do ....

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:18 AM on May. 29, 2009 in Relationships

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  • My DH is in the military so there is a lot of alone time. There are times that I feel like a stay at home mom. I have never thought about cheating, I am always careful to not put myself in situations where it would be a temptation. I think everyone has there breaking point especially when they are lonely. I think a lot of times people make bad decisions that lead to bad choices and actions. I have a hard time understanding why people put themselves in situations that can only have a negative outcome. I understand why it happens, but I think it is a copout.

    Answer by 2-1CavWife at 11:22 AM on May. 29, 2009

  • My DH as ignored me for the full 5 yrs we've been married. I can count on both hands how many times we've had sex. I'm so lonley is unreal. My sister lives with me and she's even been trying to find me a boyfriend! LOL I'm just waiting for the right me to show me some love, and i'm gone...or at least having a little fun. He's such a jerk.

    Answer by forevermom75 at 11:31 AM on May. 29, 2009

  • As a mother you give give and give. You need someone to give to you. Its hard I know, try not to cheat it will haunt you and could tear you family apart. Seek the One who can keep giving. I admire the military moms out there who do there best to be faithful. This is not to condemn but to encourage. I did cheat and never told my husband and I regret the cheating but I dont regret not telling him. I shouldve turned to the Lord but i just wanted revenge and was out of my mind and out of control. It doesnt help it just make you live in a world of loneliness cuz you cant tell anyone.


    Answer by Anonymous at 11:36 AM on May. 29, 2009

  • Today cheating would be a very last resort for me... Anybody is capable of anything given the right circumstances. Everytime I've ever thought about it, I remind myself I have two beautiful little girls that I couldn't bear to be away from and I don't want them to be ashamed of me if I can help it. I've done enough in my past to be ashamed of, don't want to add anymore to it than I have to.
    So I did the only things I knew to do... found friends, I chat online, and I keep myself well stocked in vibrators and AA's

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 12:30 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • I've been married to my husband for almost 3 years. I just can't even imagine. I love him so much, plus I feel strongly on communticating, so I believe if you have a good relationship based on respect and honesty there's no reason to cheat. If you feel it may happen, think about why you would want to? but, I would leave if I wasn't happy. But, I doubt that will happen. I love him so much. Especially since we're going to have our first baby together.

    Answer by Sillylins at 12:58 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • I did cheat, and although at the time it was wonderful and I am married to him now, I wouldn't advise it. You will always feel guilty. Always.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:13 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • It was just a passing thought during a very tumultuous time in our relationship.

    But that's ALL it was, just a THOUGHT.

    I think that if you get to a point where you act on thoughts, you need to throw in the towel and call it quits.

    Answer by CinderAmethyst at 2:03 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • At my age, I do not think so. It always will catch up with you. Whether in real life with bad consequences. Or in your dreams with guilt . It is not a happy outcome if the person finds out. In my case there would be no second chance. Old school italians do not play with that at all.

    Answer by bella69147 at 2:25 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • he was really neglectful in the beginning. and i did cheat one the time i was so emotinally screwed up and seemed regret it with my whole heart since we have fixed everything. but we both recognize that was a dark time in our marriage and we are strong now because we go thru those issues

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:29 PM on May. 29, 2009

  • I'm not married yet, but we have been together for 4 yrs and have 3 children. When he was in Mexico for a year and I found out that he cheated on me, I did cheat. My biggest problem was that the guy I was cheating with wanted to bust out and confront my fiance when he came back. I was just lucky that the other guy moved to Ohio, before my fiance came back. I have never told my man that I cheated, and I never will even if he ever admits that he did cheat on me (I have proof). I do have a little bit of urge to confess, but I will never act on it because it would just make our fights worse, (he brings up the most trivial crap that is so far in the past I barely remember it happening). I'm not saying it's right, but I was lonely, and pissed, and I still feel justified!

    Answer by deanamfinley at 3:07 PM on May. 29, 2009

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