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3 YEAR OLD WILL NOT STAY IN BED. TRIED EVERYTHING

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GHEEEE

Asked by GHEEEE at 1:13 AM on May. 30, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • give him or her a good firm warning and put them back in bet but the next time they get up a good swat on the back side never killed any 1
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:16 AM on May. 30, 2009

  • You really have to train a child this age to stay in bed and then stick with it consistently.
    GrowingMama

    Answer by GrowingMama at 1:17 AM on May. 30, 2009

  • If you've tried everything then it sounds like the one thing you might not have tried is being consistant. When he gets out of bed, put him back in bed. As many times as it takes. Dont say anything to him. Just put him back in bed. All night if you have to. I suggest doing this on a weekend because it will take more then one night. 3 nights at least. ...You have to be strong. You cant let him win the game. Your the parent, you know what is right. Show him! Every time he gets out of bed he's trying to see what you are going to teach him. Make sure you teach him the right thing. Good luck
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 1:33 AM on May. 30, 2009

  • Ours is like that too, we've had nights where it's 3 hrs past bedtime, his older brother is already asleep and the little one won't stay in bed. They are 3 & 4. Sometimes we'll go to town during the day, making sure that we've missed their nap time.....or wake them up from naptime before they wake up on their own. Then they usually go to sleep a lot better.
    daisy521

    Answer by daisy521 at 3:29 AM on May. 30, 2009

  • First, you never need to slap or hit your child to teach them to behave, like one PP suggested. You just have to be firm and follow through. I used the technique described in "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weisbluth.
    Tell her "the rules" before you leave the room. Stay in bed, if you wake up stay in bed and go back to sleep etc. Then tell her "If you get out of bed I will put you back in bed. I will not talk to you, or look at you, I will just put you back."
    It sounds simple, but it is really hard to say NOTHING, but this is the key. When you talk to them, even to say "go back to bed" they are getting your attention. You just march her back to bed w/o saying a word or looking her in the eye. You may have to stand outside her room and do it 50 times the first night. Stick with it, she will finally realize that no matter what she always gets put back. Plan on a few nights of repeated "Put backs", then PEACE!
    maggiemom2000

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 6:38 PM on May. 30, 2009

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