its soooo frustrating my 4 yr old daughter keeps touching her private parts..i keep telling her to stop doing it and its wrong and gross but she hides her room and locks the door. I know this is a really weird question but can someone tell me how to make her stop...this is really frustrating sometimes i find her in her room humping a pillow.....do i need to seek professional help?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on May. 30, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by katzmeow726 at 6:22 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by Kat122 at 3:28 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by forevermom75 at 3:32 PM on May. 30, 2009
If I were you, every time you see her touching herself, I would ask her to go wash her hands. Tell her that we don't touch our privates like that, and if we do we wash our hands because our privates are dirty, that is where our pee comes from. I would just explain it that way. And as for the humping the pillow I don't know. Maybe all these behaviors are related. I would take her to the dr, as soon as you can. Ask about the behaviors and see what she has to say. It may be possible that someone has abused your daughter, this type of behavior is very very common in children who have been sexually abused. I am a foster parent and also a victim of child hood sexual abuse. So please see a doctor as soon as you can.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:37 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:39 PM on May. 30, 2009
Oh and I'm so sick of people always jumping to the child has been sexually abused because they touch themselves. NOT the case. Children do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Answer by Anonymous at 3:40 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by benjamink at 3:43 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by HisMommySince07 at 3:45 PM on May. 30, 2009
Watch her closer and talk to her. Even though she is only four you have to bring it on her level. I used the anatomically correct verbiage for private parts. My kids understood. Dont make her feel bad and dont tell her its dirty. But I agree with Kat she is being more than just curious. Hopefully no one has done anything to her to have this sort of habit. Don't panic just gain her trust and dont make her feel self conscious or that she has done anything bad.
Answer by Vivian63 at 3:45 PM on May. 30, 2009
Answer by Zakysmommy at 3:48 PM on May. 30, 2009